I’m reblogging a post I wrote about Prop 8 a year ago, mainly because New York recently passed a law allowing Same Sex marriages to be recognized by the state government.  Enjoy. Feel free to leave a message in my ask box for comments, critiques, etc.   - Titles of Drama

thegoldengates:

Initially I was started this blog as a commentary on the Gay scene, particularly the gay social scene, of San Francisco.  However, I feel as though this is an important topic to discuss, and it’s not too far off as this is a part of the gay scene of San Francisco.

First and foremost, I want to make it clear that I fully support same-sex marriage.  I want to say that because sometimes I write and become flustered trying to get my point across and which may sound unclear.

I just find a lot of the arguments made by the supporters of prop 8 just hilarious.  Let’s dissect them shall we?

• Marriage is a religious institution and by many religious practices, has been defined by one man and one woman.
  True, marriage began as a religious institution.  However, in the eyes of the government, it is nothing more than a legally binding CONTRACT between two consenting adults.  Whatever fluff and stuffing a religion has for their definition of marriage is only between that institute and the people who practice it.  If many religious bodies feel as though the government has no right to define what they can call a marriage, they’re right.  Religious institutes do not need to recognize any marriage they do not agree with because chances are those two people probably won’t be going there to get married anyway.  HOWEVER, if they keep saying that marriage is a religious practice and must then adhere to it, then the government has no reason nor any right to recognize ANY marriage because of separation of church and state.  Therefore, NO MARRIAGE should be recognized by the government, whether it is heterosexual or homosexual and EVERYTHING is a domestic partnership and everything is still equal.  However, since domestic partnerships do not always get the same rights as marriages do, how is everything equal?
• Being gay is unnatural.
  Hate to break it to you, but neither is the concept of marriage.  Humans by nature are not monogamous creatures.  We are not penguins, so stop with those damn emo drawings.  What evidence supports this?  read this at Psychology Today.  This is why marriage is something people have to work at, even if the two people are soul mates.  Therefore the idea that two people can grow and evolve and learn at the same pace, which basically marriage is, is unnatural.  Historically, marriage was not even about love, but about securing power.  This is why arranged marriages span throughout many cultures throughout history and was a common practice, even until today.  What is the best way a powerful family can secure their throne and power from another threatening powerful family?  By marrying the two families together, duh!  How would one family gain more power and raise their status socially?  By marrying up!  This would explain why many of the royal families of Europe are somehow related to each other (through extended and distant relations, however related nonetheless).  So saying that being gay is unnatural (which i believe is not true also) while arguing that something is unnatural shouldn’t have the right to something unnatural is kind stupid right?
  
  
• Same-sex marriage will ruin marriage in general, especially for straight people, which will make it seem unimportant.
  I’m sorry, but you heterosexuals are doing that just fine yourselves.  Although it is a common misconception that divorce rates are at 50%, this is actually pertaining to new marriages.  Even then, 1 out of 2 marriages between 2 people who have never been married before will end in divorce.  That is still really high.  By hastily rushing into marriages, that is making marriage seem as though it is not that serious.  Again, marriage is really just a legally binding contract between two adults, and wouldn’t you enter into any kind of contract with caution and hesitation?  So what makes marriage any different?  It’s because of the easy way out of it.  If you really want marriage to not lose it’s meaning, then not recognizing same-sex marriage is not the way to do it.  Banning divorce making it a crime to cheat on your spouse will.  By making it difficult or even impossible to get out of a marriage and making it illegal for you even think about ruining your marriage, maybe people will be less likely to rush into it and make sure that for life is actually for life.  
  
  
• Children need a father and mother figure to be raised in a proper setting.  If children are raised in a same-sex household, they will not be raised properly.
  Then how come many children are raised in single parent homes and still become contributing adults to society?  And how come there are children raised in houses where both parents are present but still are not contributing to society?  If this is the argument to have the best intentions for children, then having children outside marriage should be illegal.  Parents who do not have both parents at home (whether the parents are separated, one is serving in the military, one is incarcerated, hell even if both parents are working and cannot be at home) should be banned as well.  The job of being a nanny should be outlawed as it is not the parents who are raising them.  And the simple reason of not having both biological parents who are not married present is reason enough for the government to be able to take children away from people.  However, the government won’t be doing that.  And if the purpose of marriage is to procreate, then there should be some test during the marrying process to make sure those who are marrying are actually able to have a baby and the marriage is only valid once a baby is conceived.  And once a woman hits menopause or the man hits andropause, the marriage is no longer valid as either one or both are not able to conceive.  Unfortunately, neither of this will ever happen either.
  
  
• By recognizing same-sex marriage, that means companies will have to face the burden of providing the same benefits to these marriages, giving them higher costs of operations.
  That actually really applies for any kind of marriage, whether it is heterosexual or homosexual.  If you want to cut back on employee benefits, the only real way to have to do that is by hiring single people.  Financially, same-sex marriage can only benefit the government.  According to Forbes Magazine as of last year, by not legalizing gay marriage it was estimated that the economy would lose $10 Billion dollars.  Considering that California is billions of dollars in debt, wouldn’t you think that California want that money?  With this happening, it would provide more jobs and stimulate the economy at least a little bit.

Funny isn’t it?  Now we just have to wait and hope that the appeal made by the supporters of Prop 8 fails.

-Titles of Drama